I checked in on whether he wanted to go a few days back and he was positive about attending, but his energy was more fixated on the prospect of movie theatre popcorn than the film itself. I want to buy a large one, he declared more than once. I told him he could use the money from his "spend" jar (we like the save-give-spend formula for allowance) but I was not thrilled with the expenditure. My disapproval of his decision was more directed at his happy consumption of a torso-sized bucket of chemicalized popcorn doused in toxic liquid "butter" (let's be clear, it's definitely not butter) than the lousy use of
I value thrift and I value natural foods eating; movie theatre popcorn violates both these values. I also value allowing my child to make decisions for himself, even if he chooses differently than I wish. One major reason for beginning an allowance this year was to give him opportunities to make regular decisions about how to use money. I did share my reasons against movie theatre popcorn (for one, we have 20 pounds of popcorn in our pantry at home, right now, plus real butter, and that is not an exaggeration) but I didn't want to pile on unpleasantries to what was, for him, a really notably fun event. I felt the need to mute myself similarly early this summer when he blew several weeks of allowance on a remote-control car that he played with for all of 4 days.
The kid really enjoys food and I completely relate. He'll sometimes make embarrassing moaning sounds of pleasure while eating a taco in public. At 6 it's simply not realistic or right to control all aspects of his intake. Not-so-little dude ninja-climbs the counter in the mornings to reach food high above the fridge while I'm still snoring in my bed, slices his own bread with a serrated knife, and can load and reload his flimsy paper plate at potluck spreads with no help from me. Most recaps of parties he attends have to do with the kind of tasty food he consumed!
After all these years of being mostly in control of his diet, it's difficult for me to see him waste money and ingest crap food into the growing "temple" of his body (I laugh saying that for this kid is often-naked, riddled with scabbing chigger bites June through August, and still forgets to wear underwear or brush his teeth, so he doesn't exactly evoke the "my-body-is-a-sacred-vessel" vibe). And yet. I trust that he'll find his way to healthy eating and sound financial spending by watching his parents make these same decisions each day (having children really pressures me to walk my talk in a big way!). And by making mistakes - lots of them.
|A meal worth moaning over -Thai Boxzing food truck|
|Almost ready to hunt his own rations|